After reading that a clearly none-too-bright university student was inspired by "50 Shades of Grey" to "surprise" rape his girlfriend, it was really quite refreshing to read this fresh and forthright definition of consent:
If you’re still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.Read the rest here....
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “omg fuck yes, I would fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!*” then you know they want a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they um and ahh and say, “I’m not really sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – this is the important bit – don’t make them drink it. You can’t blame them for you going to the effort of making the tea on the off-chance they wanted it; you just have to deal with them not drinking it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.